Day 29 & 30. Congratulations!

Day 29: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"A prudent man foresees evil, and hides himself; the simple pass on, and are punished." Proverbs 27:12

As you near the end of your Encouragement Challenge, take time to think about your husband's responses to the wickedness of the culture, the media, etc. Does your husband recognize and avoid evil? Does he regularly turn his back on pornography, sexual temptations, and the urge to lie and cheat?
This is a valuable character trait. Like Joseph in the Old Testament, who fled from the wicked advances of Potiphar's wife, this takes an understanding that these kinds of sins are first and foremost, sins against God (Genesis 39:9).
Praise your husband when he recognizes and turns his back on wickedness. If you can think of a circumstance where your husband stood for righteousness, remind him of that today - and express your gratitude.
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Day 30: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"...This is my beloved, and this is my friend..." (Song of Solomon 5:16b)

Friends can be completely honest with each other, but friendships are strained when truth is not spoken in love. How are you speaking to your beloved? Are you so "used" to him that you don't appreciate the wonder of his friendship? That is your challenge today.
Is your sweetheart your best friend? Does he know this? Have you told him, or do you assume he "just knows"?
Friendship is something that is cultivated through the good times and the bad. Friends can share their hearts, but they don't step on each other's hearts.
The way to have and be a good friend is to cultivate and celebrate the relationship. As you end this "30-Day Encouragement Challenge," celebrate your friendship with your husband. Get alone and reflect on your beloved friend. Write him a letter, listing the qualities you admire and appreciate about him. If you are creative with words, write and frame a poem about him.
Perhaps you can prepare a special meal, just for the two of you, and read the letter or poem to him. Ask if you can pray for him, and if he is willing, thank God for your love and friendship, asking for His blessing on your home.
Encouragement, as you have seen these past 30 days, is a synonym for love in action.
How has this challenge changed your heart and life, dear friend? Did God encourage you as you planned ways to encourage your husband? Were there difficult days where you simply needed to trust that God was working? Days when it was hard to leave the results to God? Remember that God is faithful, and He will bless you for your willingness to obey Him. His ways are not our ways, and perhaps He will honor you in ways you do not expect, but one thing is sure - you will never be the same because of your commitment to be more like Christ!
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com

Congratulations ladies! I hope this challenge has been a good encouragement to your husbands and your marriage!

Day 28 - We're almost there! You've done awesome!!

Day 28: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"The fear of the LORD is the instruction of wisdom, and before honor is humility." Proverbs 15:33

Sometimes, when we just "know" we are right and our husbands are wrong, it takes great humility to honor them. It is difficult to speak well of our husbands when our own hearts are puffed up with pride.
As part of your Encouragement Challenge today, pray that you will respond to the Lord in faith and humility before you react to your husband. Speak wisely and well, and leave the results to God.
The humility that comes from a right relationship with God - the humility that comes when a man is willing to listen to God and be taught from His Word - is indeed a beautiful quality. Jesus was an example of this kind of humility when he was willing to submit to His Father's will (John 6:38; Matthew 26:39).
Does your husband have that kind of humility? Is he willing to learn from and submit to direction from the Lord? Let your husband know how precious this is to your marriage relationship.
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com

Sorry for the catch up but here is Day 24-27!

Day 24: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord." Ephesians 6:4

Children can be quite a challenge to the marriage relationship. A wise wife will support her husband's leadership in the home as much as possible, and will praise him for his fathering skills. Negativity makes a man feel like a failure, and may make him want to give up.
Does your husband discipline your children wisely? Does he show them love and encourage them? Does he take an interest in their activities and dreams? Does he spend time with them? Does he take part in developing their character? Praise him for these important life skills.
If you don't have children - is your husband positive and encouraging around other people's children? Let him know that you have noticed.
If your husband does not experience positive relationships with children, you will need to figure out why. Perhaps he had negative experiences as a child with his own parents, and needs to learn how to respond. Perhaps you can lovingly and patiently show him how to parent - while still maintaining his authority in the home.
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com



Day 25: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"...seek peace, and pursue it." Psalm 34:14b

"You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You." Isaiah 26:3

Before you consider whether these verses describe your husband, consider your own presence in the home. Do you promote an atmosphere of peace, or do critical words often flow from your mouth? Do you struggle with anger? If so, before you continue with your Encouragement Challenge, confess these sinful habits to the Lord, and determine to speak words of peace to your family today.
Does your husband bring an atmosphere of peace into your home? Is his presence a calming influence? Does he bring music, entertainment, books or people into your home that build a sense of serenity? Let him know how much you appreciate this wonderful quality, and support his choices.
If, on the other hand, he is quickly angered or he creates chaos rather than calm, ask God to give you an abundance of the kind of peace that will speak to his heart. Be patient and loving. Create an inviting atmosphere of peace, as much as possible.
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com



Day 26: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men." Luke 2:52

If you have faithfully encouraged your husband, you will no doubt have seen some changes in his life...and your own life, as well. Encouragement is a wonderful habit that we hope you will continue for the rest of your life.
The important thing is to keep growing in Christ and obeying the Word of God as you respond to your husband. As you consider today how to bless your husband and not tear him down, think of ways that you can encourage balance in your home.
Jesus led a balanced life. He grew mentally, physically, spiritually, and socially. As you see your husband branching out in these areas, is there a pattern of growth? Is your husband striving for balance in his life? If so, let him know you have noticed, and ask how you can further encourage that balance.
If your husband is out of balance - focusing on one area to the exclusion of the others - consider whether there are things you can do to help restore or create balance in his life. Can you encourage times for sports or exercise? Keep the children quiet for a study time? Invite friends over for dinner? Stimulate his mind?
Be sure you are working toward balance in your own life, as well. Be an example!
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Day 27: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"Be of good courage, and he shall strengthen your heart, all you who hope in the LORD." Psalm 31:24

You have almost completed the "30-Day Encouragement Challenge." Perhaps it has taken you a tremendous amount of courage to speak words of encouragement consistently to your husband. Courage comes as we place our trust in God. Have faith that God will continue to work long after your encouraging words have been shared.
There are lots of "tough guys" in the world, but true courage comes from the Lord. Does your husband exhibit the courage to take an unpopular stand, perhaps even to stand alone against evil? Is he courageous in his faith? Does he work hard to change injustice? Is he a stickler for the truth? Does he protect you or your family from the attacks of the Enemy?
Psalm 27:14 says this kind of courage comes from "waiting" on the Lord for His strength. If your budget allows, "award" your husband with a medal, trophy, framed picture of a brave knight, or some other token that represents his courage as a man of God. Praise evidences of your husband's courage in protecting you, your marriage, your family, or your home.
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Day 20-23

Day 20: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives
"And be kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ also forgave you." Ephesians 4:32
It's time for some heart examination. As you continue in this 30-day challenge, have you found any roots of bitterness that are contaminating your relationship with your husband? Do you understand that as long as you are unwilling to forgive your husband - by God's grace and in His power - you will not be able to encourage him? Your own resentment will keep getting in the way. Now is the time to deal with any unforgiving attitudes. Forgive him, even as God has forgiven you.
Is your husband a forgiving man? Does he keep short accounts of your problems? Express your thankfulness for such a man.
Does your husband - rightly or wrongly - harbor grudges against you? Again, are there things you need to change, or do you need to ask for his forgiveness for an offense? Help your husband be more forgiving by quickly forgiving him for his mistakes.
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Day 21: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives
"But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you." Matthew 6:33
If we are living in light of eternity, everything we think, do or say is seen from an eternal perspective. We will someday give an account for our failure to speak words of love and encouragement. Determine today that your words will be sweet and helpful.
Does your husband have an eternal perspective that allows him to reject materialism and temporal values? Express your gratefulness for his value system, and praise him for putting eternal things before riches and other things of this world.
If this is a problem area for him, consider how you might alter your own value system and live for eternity in front of him, encouraging him to do the same. Only two things will go into eternity...the Word of God and people. Be sure that you are focusing on the right things.
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com






Day 22: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives
"Let your speech always be with grace..." Colossians 4:6a
Focus today on how you represent your husband in your home, your church, and your community. In this challenge to encourage, ask: "If all my family and friends knew about my husband came from a filter of what I've said about him, what would they think of my husband?" Do you need to change the filter?
Do you talk positively about your husband to others...or do you complain and criticize? Your speech should reflect 1 Corinthians 13 love. Your words should be kind, and should never "rejoice in iniquity" (v. 6). Refrain from listing your husband's faults to others. Satan likes to trick us in this area - be wary of sharing barbed "prayer requests."
Remember, "Love will cover a multitude of sins" (1 Peter 4:8b). Present your husband before others today in a strong, positive manner. Slip in a "good word" for your spouse. Resist the urge to correct or belittle him in front of others. Some of what you say may come back to him - and you want your words to be sweet, building him up and never tearing him down.
Don't forget: you are always criticizing - or encouraging - before an audience. God hears your conversations when you are alone with your husband in your own home. May your speech be always seasoned with grace.
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com





Day 23: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives
"Let your speech always be with grace..." Colossians 4:6a
You're moving toward the home stretch of your 30-day challenge! Just a reminder of what you've committed:
You can't say anything negative about your husband...to your husband...or to anyone else, about your husband. Each day, say something that you admire or appreciate about your husband...to your husband...and to someone else, about your husband!
"In all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works..." Titus 2:7a
Does the "30-Day Encouragement Challenge" seem like hard work? Or is it becoming a pleasant exercise in genuine Christlikeness in your home? You are only scratching the surface of ways to encourage your mate.
Is your husband organized? Is he diligent? Is he persistent? These are all related to a pattern of personal disciplines that are worthy of your praise. Affirm him for one or more of these traits that you see in him.
Some men have not developed these qualities because they are naturally more spontaneous. You can praise his spontaneity! Perhaps God has called you alongside to help him with disciplines he has not yet developed - but this does not include nagging. You can keep him organized.
Whatever the need, you can be your husband's cheerleader, encouraging him when he wants to give up.
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com

Day 19: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"My beloved is radiant and ruddy, distinguished among ten thousand. His head is the finest gold; his locks are wavy, black as a raven. His eyes are like doves beside streams of water, bathed in milk, sitting beside a full pool. His cheeks are like beds of spices, mounds of sweet-smelling herbs. His lips are lilies, dripping liquid myrrh. His arms are rods of gold, set with jewels. His body is polished ivory, bedecked with sapphires. His legs are alabaster columns, set on bases of gold. His appearance is like Lebanon, choice as the cedars. His mouth is most sweet, and he is altogether desirable. This is my beloved and this is my friend, O daughters of Jerusalem." Song of Solomon 5:10-16

Criticism leaves scars; but encouragement can bring healing. Remember that today as you focus on your "30-Day Encouragement Challenge."
Almost nothing is as devastating to a man as the belief that his wife finds him repulsive. Sadly, many women unwisely criticize their husbands' bodies.
Have you ever considered how wonderfully God designed men and women? No matter how a man looks - by the standards of the world - a loving God designed them all, and they are all "beautiful" in His sight. Encourage your husband today by praising his uniqueness.
As you look over your husband's body, from the tip of his toes to his bald or bushy head, thank God that your husband is "wonderfully made," then admire your husband verbally. (Strong arms? Hairy chest? Firm hands? Big feet? Rugged chin? Wide shoulders? Compassionate eyes? Broad smile?)
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com

Day 18, This is a good one!

Day 18: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"You will show me the path of life. In your presence is fullness of joy...Happy are the people whose God is the LORD!" Psalm 16:11a; 114:15b

"A merry heart does good like medicine..." Proverbs 17:22a

It's hard to criticize others when we are enjoying their company. Instead of speaking negatively to your husband today, enjoy him! Encourage him! As you experience fullness of joy with God, share some of that joy with your husband.
Does your husband have a playful side? A great sense of humor? Is there a "little boy" that wants to escape from time to time, reflecting the joy in his heart?
This is a wonderful part of who he is, and a great strength. Let him know that you appreciate his joyfulness and his playful spirit. Find opportunities to join him in positive play times.
If your husband can sometimes be overly serious, coax him out occasionally for some play times. It will help him relieve stress and relax.

Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com

Day 16 & 17

Day 16: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"And the LORD God said, 'It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.'" Genesis 2:18

God says that it is not good for man to be alone. But the way some women criticize their mates, the husbands may long for solitude. Be careful today not to criticize your mate, but look for ways to encourage him personally and publicly.
Speaking of communication, does your husband communicate with you? God has made you a companion and helper for your husband, and part of being "one flesh" with him is the privilege of sharing and discussing personal needs and concerns. Thank God for that wonderful gift. Thank your husband for communicating with you.
If your spouse does not communicate as you wish, look for ways that he communicates that are normal for him - smiling at you, nodding his head, even a pleasant "grunt!" - and then thank him for letting you know that he cares. Perhaps he needs to be lovingly taught how to communicate. Be patient with him...and listen when he does speak.
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com




Day 17: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding." Proverbs 9:10

Are you a wise woman? Do you open your mouth with wisdom, as Proverbs 31:26 suggests? As you continue in your 30-day challenge, remember that a wise woman encourages her husband.
Is your husband a "wise man?" Does he have a godly perspective that comes from knowing God and walking with Him in obedience? Does he have a sense of purpose for his life and vision for your home? Tell him how much this means to you.
If you are not sure about your husband's vision for your home, ask him, "Honey, what do you want to accomplish with our marriage and home in the years to come?" and "How can I help you accomplish that?" If he does not have a vision, your questions may inspire him to develop one.
If your husband is not walking with God - or perhaps, does not know the Lord - you have the opportunity and responsibility to practice your faith and create a thirst for God. Thank God for giving your husband a place in his heart that only He can fill, and keep praying that he will turn to the Lord to fill that vacuum!
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com

Day 15 - Happy Friday!

Day 15: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ..." 2 Peter 3:18a

Sometimes we live so close to our spouse that we fail to see him as others do; we only see our husband's faults. But take a step back. Perhaps he is growing spiritually in ways you have failed to appreciate. How can you encourage his growth in a fresh, new way? Remember - your husband is accountable to God for his spiritual development. You are accountable to God to encourage and not hinder that growth.
Can you identify an area of spiritual strength in your husband? Does he pray or read his Bible regularly? Does he like to read about or discuss spiritual matters? Does he go to church with you? Is he a spiritual leader? What do others say about him? If you can identify a specific area, praise him for that.
If not, pray earnestly that God will work in his heart, and watch for signs of spiritual growth in the future.
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com

Day 14

Day 14: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"The righteous man walks in his integrity..." Proverbs 20:7a

Every week there are news reports about men who gave in to temptations and compromised what they said they believed. We hear countless reports about dishonest business dealings, hidden infidelity, and hypocritical leaders. It's so easy to focus on these things and ignore those who are being honest, faithful, and genuine. As you continue in the "30-Day Encouragement Challenge," determine to look for ways that your husband stands against the culture.
Is your spouse a man of integrity? Is he fair in his dealings with people? Does he understand the meaning of justice? Is he honest in business? Unhypocritical in his faith? Consider all the ways a man can live in integrity, and praise your husband for one of them.
As you have the opportunity - as it is appropriate - share examples of your husband's honesty and integrity with others.
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com

Challenges Day 12 & 13

Day 12: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"With all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love." Ephesians 4:2

Part of the difficulty you may face as you continue in this 30-day challenge to encourage your husband is that you really are struggling to find positive things to praise. Perhaps the problem is not with your husband. Have you checked your own heart?
Sometimes we get disillusioned because of our own unreasonable or unrealistic expectations (Proverbs 13:12). It may not be that our mates are doing something wrong; it's simply that we expect too much in some areas.
Our expectations must be met in God alone, and then we will have the right perspective to ask God for the healing and grace we need to respond to others.
How sad that we give more grace to others that to those in our own homes. Today, try to look at your husband through eyes of grace. Verbally thank your husband for what he is already doing.
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com



Day 13: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"I am by beloved's, and his desire is toward me." Song of Solomon 7:10

The sexual relationship. It's one of those elements - along with money and children - that can derail a marriage through negative comments. Negativity destroys intimacy, but encouragement builds and strengthens the marriage bond.
Let's get practical here. Is your husband a "good lover?" Have you told him so? Be specific. Let him know when he pleases you. Most husbands genuinely want to please their wives, especially in this important area of marriage.
In moments of intimacy, do you find your mind wandering? This can change as you focus on something wonderful about your husband. Realize that your husband wants intimacy with you... his desire is toward you.
Does this area of your marriage need some work? Remember that this is a sensitive area for men. Be sure to encourage his lovemaking and masculinity in positive ways.
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com

Husband Encouragement Challenge Day 7 - 11

Hey everyone! I am so sorry that I have not been posting the daily challenges, but my computer broke down on me last Friday and I am just now got it back up and running so below is days 7 - 11 for the encouragement challenge.

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Day 7: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"Do not overwork to be rich; because of your own understanding, cease!...for riches certainly make themselves wings..." Proverbs 23:4-5

"That I may cause those who love me to inherit wealth, that I may fill their treasuries." Proverbs 8:21

Money is the root of much marital discord. Ask yourself, "Am I being negative toward my husband in the area of finances?" Determine not to speak evil of your husband in this area. Discover ways to encourage him and help him instead.
Does your husband handle finances wisely? Does he make good financial investments, based on biblical principles? Does he have a budget? Does he make wise decisions about purchases - checking many sources before he buys? Is he a good steward of his money before the Lord? Let him know how much you appreciate his strengths in financial matters.
Is he weak in this area, encourage any good decisions that he does make. Perhaps you can help him, if he's open to the idea, by organizing financial files or providing other practical assistance. Or, if he wants you to handle the finances, ask for his input before you make decisions that will affect him.
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives . Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com

Day 8: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"...but who can find a faithful man?" Proverbs 20:6b

Faithfulness is a wonderful but rare quality today, especially in regard to marriage. Do you understand how important this quality is? Your challenge is to continue to root out all negative speaking, and plant seeds of encouragement instead. You may be amazed at what will grow.
Contemporary culture often entices men to be unfaithful to ther wedding vows and spiritual commitments. Appreciate your husband's faithfulness - how he is loyal to you. Let him know that you are glad he has "stick-to-it-iveness" in your marriage. Appreciate his faithfulness to God. (If you have an unfaithful husband, this is a difficult area for you. Pray, speak the truth in love, remain faithful yourself, and discover ways to encourage faithfulness in your mate. The Bible says that husbands may "...be won by the conduct of their wives" [1 Peter 3:1]. You may also want to see counsel from a mature, godly individual or couple.)
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com

Day 9: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"... be swift to hear, slow to speak..." James 1:19b

We are often so busy speaking that we don't take time to listen. We are so quick to offer a comment - negative or positive - that we don't really "hear" our husband's heart. Remember: we have two ears and only one mouth. We need to listen more!
As you continue in your 30-day challenge, not speaking negatively and focusing on positive encouragement, hear the Lord's admonition today: "Be swift to hear."
If listening is a real problem for you, play a game with yourself. See if you can listen to your husband for one whole day, only speaking when asked a question. If your husband notices the difference, explain that you are learning to listen more - not only to God, but also to him.
One easy way to express admiration for your husband is to ask a question about something he enjoys, and then listen to his response. If it's an area of personal familiarity, keep asking questions until you learn something you didn't know, then tell him, "Wow, I didn't know that!"

Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives . Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com

Day 10: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"Behold you are handsome, my beloved! Yes, pleasant!..." Song of Solomon 1:16a

We all crave appreciation. We want to know that we are valued and loved. Early love letters probably reflected our admiration, but if we're not careful, our spouse will forget why we were drawn to him. If you still have any of your old love letters, re-read them for clues to deepen your current level of appreciation for your spouse.
When we spend time criticizing our husbands, we lose time that could be spent admiring them. As you consider various ways to encourage your husband, ask, "How can I admire him?"
Does your husband know that you think he is attractive? What was one of the characteristics in your husband that first drew you to him? Was it a physical characteristic, or something else?
Was it his gentle, compassionate eyes? Kindness or concern for others? An easy-going confidence? A steadiness that comes from trusting in the Lord? Strength of character in a culture that lacks integrity? Do you see at least a glimpse of that characteristic in him today? Whatever it is, tell him!
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com

Day 11: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord." Ephesians 5:22

Women who are constantly negative toward their husbands - especially by speaking evil of them to others - show great disrespect. Determine not to do that today (or ever!). This challenge to encourage is closely connected to submission.
Men respond to women who respect them. What do you respect about your husband? Part of that respect includes submission to his authority. Let your husband know how respecting him makes it easier to submit to his leadership. Show your respect in public by listening to him and smiling at him when he speaks. Place your hand in his as you walk together.
If you feel there is nothing to respect, search harder...nearly every man has some core characteristic that can be nurtured and respected. In any case, you must still cultivate a submissive spirit to his position of leadership..."as to the Lord."
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com

Husband Encouragement Challenge Day 6

Day 6: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"...whatever you do, do all to the glory of God." 1 Corinthians 10:31b

Do you recognize and appreciate your husband's creativity? Or do you criticize and demean his efforts? Instead of negativity, determine to be positive. Perhaps you can help your husband see that his efforts are an opportunity to glorify God.
Is your husband the "creative" type? Does he have any artistic gifts? What is that special "knack" he has? Affirm him for his handiwork - a hobby, music, gardening, tinkering with cars, working with wood, etc. Remember: Even if he doesn't measure up to your standards, praise his efforts. If your budget allows, buy him a book or magazine that will continue to encourage his special skill or talent.
If you have a hard time finding his "creative side," understand the men's creativity sometimes is related to their work. Find something he does to make his job run more smoothly or something he does that adds value to his work... and let him know that you have noticed.
Make his day...Praise his accomplishments in public, while he is listening.
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com

Husband Encouragement Challenge

Happy New Year Everyone!

I hope 2009 is off to a good start to all of you!!

I wanted to share with anyone who may be interested something a friend had sent me last week. It is called the Husband Encouragement Challenge- please read below and if you are interested, you can check back with the blog each day for the rest of the month for the daily challenge. Or just send me your email and I will email them to you in your inbox daily.

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HUSBAND ENCOURAGEMENT CHALLENGE

a specific challenge to encourage our husbands for the next 30 days. don't we all need a little encouragement? the challenge for day 1-5 is below. check back daily for the next challenge.

I am so glad you are joining me for the "30-Day Encouragement Challenge" to encourage our husband! Your decision to participate in this challenge means that you truly want to be a blessing in your home. This challenge will also result in spiritual growth in your own life. Keep track of what God does in your home as you bless and encourage your spouse.

Day 1: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives"The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life." Proverbs 31:11-12.

Here's the 30-Day Encouragement Challenge...for the next 30 days:*You can't say anything negative about your husband...to your husband...or to anyone else, about your husband.*Say something that you admire or appreciate about your husband ...to your husband...and to someone else, about your husband! To help you get started, have you ever thanked your husband for "choosing you" above all other women? He found you attractive as a person, and appreciated you. Though many circumstances in your marriage may have changed, let your husband know that you are glad God led you together, and that you want to be a blessing to him for the rest of your marriage. Let him know that he can trust you to be in his corner. One of the best opportunities to express your gratitude is first thing in the morning. How do you greet your husband each morning? Is he confident in your love? Give him a "wake up call" that he'll never forget, a big "I love you" and an "I'm so glad I'm your wife!"

Day 2: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives
"...through love serve one another." Galatians 5:13b

How did you do yesterday with your first day of blessing and encouraging your husband? Was it easy? Was it hard to hold your tongue when you wanted to say something negative? We hope you're off to a good start. (If you blew it, don't give up - start again today!) There are so many practical things you can praise, if you look for them.
Today, find some way that your husband is serving you or your family. Does he help around the house? Take care of the car? Fix things that are broken? If your budget allows, give him a new, small tool with a big bow attached. But make sure he doesn't think it's part of a "Honey Do" list!
Maybe your husband's not a handy man, but does he run errands for you? Let you go first? Take care of you when you are sick? Help you make decisions? Praise him for his willingness to serve others. Let him know that you see his unique service as a great strength.
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com

Day 3: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives
"Love suffers long, and is kind..." 1 Corinthians 13:4
"And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:19

Love indeed suffers long and is kind. As you consider your Encouragement Challenge, determine today that you will not say anything negative to or about your husband. Speak kindly to him with words of genuine encouragement.
If your husband is considerate of your needs, let him know that you have noticed. Thank him for his kindness and consideration. Thank the Lord that your husband knows how to be both tough and tender.
Sometimes it's difficult for a man to be gentle, kind, or tender - especially if he hasn't had role models in these areas. If he's not a considerate person, appeal to him for help without complaining. Let him know that it's hard for you to handle some things alone. Then, when he moves in to help, don't insist that he do it your way. Be glad that he is responding, and express your gratitude.
Ultimately, you can't expect your husband to make you feel more secure, loved, etc. Remember that only God can meet the deepest needs of your heart.
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com

Day 4: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives
"let him labor, working with his hands what is good..." Ephesians 4:28

We are all accountable for the things we say, both negative and positive words. Have you embraced the challenge to speak only positive things to your husband and to others about him? Here's a suggestion that touches the core of your husband's world. Some women take their husband's career for granted, and they show it in many ways. Do you "dump" on your husband at the end of the workday, or do you strengthen and encourage him with your words? A wise wife will make her husband feel that she values and appreciates his work. Let him know that you are glad he is a hard worker. Take opportunities to praise his diligence and resourcefulness to others.
If your husband is out of work, unable to work, or refuses to work, you'll need to be more creative. Praise him for a character quality that you see in him that would be a vital part of a successful career - such as persistence, decisiveness, strength, an analytical mind, organizational skills, good with people, good listener, determination, etc.
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com

Day 5: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives
"Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers." Ephesians 4:29

Another way to describe the positive side of this "30-Day Encouragement Challenge" is by using the word "edify," which means, "to build up." Negative comments only discourage and tear down. Positive comments encourage and build.
Do you edify your husband before others, adding to his value in their eyes? This is especially important to other family members.
Do you praise your husband to his relatives, and yours? Does your husband's mother know how much you love him? How about your dad? Perhaps you can drop a word of praise into a conversation or letter. Be creative in letting your relatives know that you respect your husband, love him, and support him, in spite of whatever flaws and weaknesses he may have.
Copyright Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss' 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives. Used with permission. www.ReviveOurHearts.com